The main problem that I have in general is that no one has ever shouted their problems away. To change the world for the better, one must understand their opponent.
Not just knowing what the enemy says, but knowing why he says it. This is work. Hard work. It requires a curiosity and compassion that most people do not appear to possess naturally. It isn’t fair. Life never is.
Know your enemy. Love your enemy. Make your enemy know you. Make your enemy love you. Be quick to listen and slow to condemn. Whenever possible, try to assume that people are doing the best that they know how to do. Never subject yourself to abuse. Never abandon your needs. But always strive to see what the other side’s needs and fears are.
Learn your enemy. Imagine what it would take to satisfy both sets of needs. Address root causes, ignore symptoms if possible. Search for mutual ground and grow outward from that.
Most people aren’t bad, they are just under pressure like you are.
